I realize now that I’m already living my dreams! I got everything I wanted and more. Only now, I have outgrown those dreams and have another set of dreams!

When I started having kids, all dreams I had making it to the top of the corporate ladder, vanished. All I wanted eversince was to be free. Free to spend my time with my kids and husband. Free to spend my time with friends and family. Free to go after my passions outside of work. Free to enjoy and experience life.

It’s the simplest dream I ever had, yet the most complicated to attain.

You wouldn’t believe how much time, effort and money I’ve spent all these years trying to accomplish that dream… and yet, it still remains a dream.

Am I frustrated now after all these years of trying? No. Why? Because those years of resisting and struggling, and trying to break free from the successful life I put myself into were also those same years that enlightened me to the true meaning of happiness.

Happiness is not about achieving your dreams. It’s all about being in the moment, fully living the present. It’s all about enjoying the journey as you go along, fulfilling your dreams.

What I’ve so far learned from this journey is that I was able to accomplish my past dreams with having the least resistance and struggling on my part. I was just going with the flow of life… I put my mind to set out for my dreams once, and forgot about it. I went on my merry way, doing things one day at a time, and enjoying the process. Somehow, my dreams just came to be. That was the difference between those dreams and my present one. My present dream became a need for me. A need that has to happen ASAP.

As soon as I started realizing this and made changes to my mindset and attitude, things started to lighten up. In 2008, I was offered a hoteling arrangement with my current employer. Now I get to work from home 4 times a week! I only need to be physically at work when there are important meetings that I need to be there for. Isn’t that great?

Am I now living my dream? Yes! I may not be quite there yet, but who cares? My dream will happen at the right time it ought to happen. Right now, all I really care about is enjoying and experiencing life with my family and love ones at the moment life is happening. Truly grateful for what I have and what I have so far accomplished in life. That’s all that matters… and as the song says, “…Whatever will be, will be!”

How are you living your dreams right now?

Now that I’ve been contemplating about it, how my life was in this past year, and what my new year’s resolution would be, I’m just actually grateful, very grateful for everything that has happened. I’ve been a big believer of this saying from “Breaking The Rules” which says that “Everything that happens to you has a purpose.”

Whatever it is that I need to learn from this phase of my life, I probably haven’t learned yet, so I haven’t really moved on. This year, I won’t have a whole list of New Year’s resolution. Instead of chasing my dream, I will live my dream.

My only resolution is whatever it is I do have to be something that honors me – in body, mind, and spirit. I would put myself my first priority now, not letting work get in the way of taking care of myself. I won’t wait for anything anymore to enjoy life. The future will always belong to the future… Enjoying the moment with my love ones have actually been what I always wanted. There is no other perfect time to enjoy that than TODAY.

Some turn to different growth coaching programs, others sign up for different parenting courses, while others are constantly looking for self improvement advice. Whatever it is they do, there is a search within them for something more.

How much does the above paragraph describe you? Does it speak to a part of you that knows there’s something more than this, but you’re not sure what? Have you found yourself thinking “What would life be like “IF only…”?

It’s time for something more. It’s time to discover what’s next for you…

I was informed that an extraordinary, live-transforming speaker is coming to different parts of our country at different dates starting on Sept. 16.

Bruce D Schneider is a Master Certified Coach, best-selling author, founder of the Institute for Professional Empowerment Coaching (iPEC) and one of the most sought-after speakers in the country.

He will provide you with a foundation from which you can create (or re-create!) your life– each moment of each day, instead of simply reacting to the circumstances that life throws at you.

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Here are some mom tips on how you can gain back your confidence, and your inner hotness:

Make time for yourself.

Start squeezing in mom time into your day no matter how overwhelming your schedule is. A 5-minute break or an hour mom time, it doesn’t matter. If you won’t start allocating time for yourself, you’re not going to have time for yourself. Chores, my hot moms, will never end. Start making yourself a priority. Soaking in the tub, taking a nap, reading a book, whatever helps you experience and enjoy the moment. Just make the time — you deserve it.

Sweat it out!

Not only will you have a hotter, sexier body in the long run, exercise gives you more energy, and elevates your mood. You’ll benefit from becoming happier, and less stressed and could improve your relationship with your husband, kids and the people around you, helping you gain more confidence for yourself. You don’t have to go to the gym to exercise. Eversince I started working from home, I’ve given up my gym membership and just workout in my basement. My list of chores doubled with the fact that I now work from home but I still managed to establish a routine that includes working out. Remember: “If there’s a will, there’s a way.”

Update your clothes.

A lot of moms tend to wear larger sizes because they struggle with the whole body image thing but realizes that once they start wearing something more “fitting” to them, they become more in tune with their inner sexiness and feel more like a woman.

Get your nails done.

There seems to be a lot of moms who feel more sexy after a manicure and/or a pedicure. There’s something about having a really nice cute feet with nice color that makes you feel good about yourself especially in the summer, or when you’re in bare feet. One of my favorite things to do!

Get you hair done.

Getting your hair and/or color done on a regular basis is a great confidence booster. Just make sure you consult with your hairstylist on what will go with your face shape and skin tone.

Remember, the best moms are the happy and confident moms. Taking care of ourselves teaches our kids to take care of themselves.

Our kids rely and learn from us, and they deserve to have the best role models.

Most of us have done similar things to our kids. Heck, most of us experienced similar situations when we were about little David’s age! As children, we are all attached to our intuition — (right brain, heart, solar plexus). All we needed was to learn how to train our analytical minds (right brain) to process and understand what our intuition tells us. Instead, experiences similar to our story above resulted in negation of what we’re feeling, and have been penalized for using our analytical minds correctly. As we are growing up, we got trained, and programmed to rely more and more on our analytical minds, and away from our intuition. And in the process, we learned to not to trust it, ignore it, and shut it off.

Analytical thinking (left brain) or the Mind Intelligence, is done by our conscious, rational mind — one that relies on words, and numbers to process information. It functions like a computer chip, designed to break down whole chunks of input into individual bits of data (1′s and 0′s) which are then processed sequentially. When programmed correctly, our analytical mind is perfectly suited to serve as an input/output device on behalf of our intuitive mind. But when programmed incorrectly, it departs from its pure data transmission role and attempts instead to judge data as good or bad, right or wrong. A study conducted has found that when the analytical mind (left brain) is surgically separated from the intuition, it became completely incapable of distinguishing truth from fiction. It simply cannot execute judging function. Although because of its deductive reasoning skills (1′s, 0′s, on/off, yes/no), this is how it deceives itself that it’s capable of knowing right or wrong, good or bad.

Intuitive thinking (right brain) or the Heart Intelligence is carried out by our subconscious mind, processing non-verbal information, relying on pictures, patterns, and feelings to express its conclusions. Its processing speed is too fast to permit the use of words and numbers to process its information. The difference in processing speed between our analytical and intuitive minds is thought to be in the order of 1:1,000 and could be more. That is why when heart intelligence is activated and fully engaged, we receive information in a different bandwidth — information different from the logical processing we normally get. It is believed that the heart is where the spirit merges with humanness. It is our connection or portal to our higher self.

Our intuition is an awesome force. It seeks to continuously move us into an ever-evolving vision of perfectness. The more deeply we tap into this awesome force, the easier it becomes to reach our goals. Each of us must continually work to improve our ability to discern (through our analytical mind) — when our intuition is sending us a message:

• the serene feeling of “comfort” that appears when something fits perfectly (positive, affirming)
• or the subtle feeling of “discomfort” when something does not fit (negative, warning)

Here are some physical sensations that you might experience when your intuition is sending you a message from Judith Orloff’s book Second Sight:

• Positive and Affirming:
• sense of warmth
• ability to breath easily
• sharp clarity of hearing or vision
• a wave of goose bumps, tingles, or fluttery sensations
• relaxation in the gut and shoulders

Negative or Warning:

• icy cold hands and/or feet; an overall chill
• twinging or clenching pain in the gut or chest
• nausea or acid stomach
• a sense of being on “high alert”
• fatigue or loss of energy
• onset of headache

A wise Indian once said, “the longest journey a man or woman can take is their journey from their head to their heart.” So, in case you haven’t started your journey yet and wants to learn more, listen to this FREE recording where you will learn the Keys To A Heart-Centered Living.

This is a follow-up to that post, as I start into my own journey to intuitive-awareness and right brain development. Here are some ways I’ve gathered from different sources on what we can do to start exercising our right brain muscles:

Visualize

This is the process of picturing what you want to see in your mind, and unlike daydreaming, you are in control so you choose and pick what you want to see in your mind’s eye.

Draw

Just draw or doodle whatever you want without analyzing what you’re doing. You’ll find that drawing is one of the effective ways to distract your left brain.

Write

You can do free writing – just writing anything that comes to mind without getting concerned with punctuations, grammer, etc.

Another way is to write stories of your experiences. As you describe your experiences with the written word, you develop your ability to visualize what is happening.

Walk in nature

Spending time walking and enjoying nature without your iPod or electronic devices allows for your creativity and joy to flow.

Sing

Singing taps into and exercises your right brain because the right brain is better with pattern recognition.

Drive

Yes, drive your car. You notice how you need to stop talking when you’re backing out or changing lanes? That’s how you switch to your right brain. You shut off the left brain chatter and tap into that part of your brain that judges spaces and distances without reasoning your way through it.

Listening to music or playing an instrument

Listening to music or playing an instrument, is something you experience at the moment by getting past words.

Dance or Act

Acting or dancing out what you’re feeling with movements and expressions rather than words helps you get better at expressing yourself through movements, thus, connecting you more to your emotions.

Writing with your non-dominant hand

Writing with your non-dominant hand forces your right brain to play a more active role.

Meditate

This is the art of quieting the mind and your left brain chatter. Practicing this daily helps you be more aware of the information your right brain is showing you.

So, are you left or right brained? I would love to hear about your experience in this area and anything you could add is greatly appreciated.

Chances are you’re stuck in your past. Everyone has a past. Whether it’s a happy or traumatic one, most people either cherish it or learn from it and usually move on. Those that are stuck have usually no energy to be in the present. And these people usually experience the same type of draining events happening to them over and over again.

“Well, I didn’t choose this to be happening to me, it just keeps on happening.” “It’s not my fault that I always get stuck with mean people. Who would want that? I certainly didn’t wish for it to happen!” “It’s fate that I keep on attracting unfortunate events to my life even if I don’t want it.” “Because there are simply bad, mean people out there who looks for people to prey on, and they keep on finding me.” “I keep on trying to be positive but it still happens.”

Ok, you are unfortunate, I get it. While I’m sad that this keeps on happening to you, I would also like to help you pull yourself out from the blackhole that you are in. But it is YOU who’s gonna do it. Not me, not your family, or your friends. It’s all about YOU. I know you didn’t do this to yourself. But stop being a victim and start taking charge of your life.

First thing’s first. What do you always talk about when you open your mouth? Do you always find yourself talking about your unfortunate events? If you keep on talking about your sad experiences, you’re also thinking about those things as well. And I’m sure you’re very emotional about it as well. So guess where you’re spending the energy you have left? Uh-huh. And law of attraction states that you expand whatever you spend your energy on. That’s why it keeps on happening to you. Knowing what you want is one thing. But spending your energy on what you DON’T want is another…. and surely more powerful! So be careful.

Be an observer to yourself and just notice what you like to talk about with people… with your friends, most of the time. Get an honest friend to tell you the truth. “Well, I need to talk about it or I’ll explode.” You can vent, sure. But if that’s all you talk about with every friend you see, then your dwelling on it. There are other more productive outlets you can do. Get a hobby. Workout. Read a book. Sleep. Whatever it is that’ll help you release it. Feel it at the moment. You’re human, it’s perfectly normal to feel it. Then let it go. It’s not worth it to hang on to these negative feelings. You don’t deserve it.

I’m sure you know people who just have it “easy”. Those people who are so fortunate to always get what they want that you sometimes hate them for being lucky. Set aside your feelings of wanting to kill them for a sec and study their patterns and habits. What do they have in common? Where do they spend their time with? What do they talk about most of the time? You will notice that most of them are in the other end of the spectrum compared to you. They’re the ones who talk about “greatness”. They’re the ones who talk about what good things happen to them recently. They’re the ones who would rather spend time “creating” or going after their dreams rather than nonsense talking. They’re the ones who are in CHARGE of their life.

Now some people are so stuck with their past they need professional help before they could move on. It’s OK to see a specialist. Recognize that you need help and get it! It’s about taking the first step. It’s all about CHOICES. “Really? Coz it wasn’t my choice to be in this mess in the first place.” Yes, but you have a choice now to keep on yapping, to get professional help, or to start helping yourself. So what’s it gonna be?

Well, it’s not. Apparently, something got missed in the movie. So if you’ve been trying to attract positive things to come your way and have been struggling with getting any result, this could be the reason why.

According to Bob Proctor, Bruce Lipton, and Jack Canfield on three separate videos I’ve watched recently where each of them was interviewed, positive thinking, an act done by our conscious mind, is competing against a much more powerful processor.

Our mind is composed of the conscious and subconscious mind. Unfortunately, our conscious mind only operates our reality 5% of the time. The subconscious mind, which is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind, runs our reality 95% of the time.

Our physical body vibrates on the same level as our subconscious mind. It is a tape player that runs our reality, no matter how consciously we choose to run it. The subconscious mind plays programs that we have gotten from other people, events, environment, as we were growing up. It could be playing programs that we consciously DON’T want — not who we are. It’s not running the programs you have on your conscious mind.

When life doesn’t work, when you don’t find the relationships, or whatever it is your positive thinking was looking for, we have a tendency to blame the outside world because “I have all the positive intentions, so it can’t be ME.”

What we didn’t see was while we were having all these positive intentions, the subconscious mind was running the show.

And we don’t see that we generally sabotage our lives with behaviors that are not supporting us. Then you start to believe that there are forces outside of you that control your life and you’re a VICTIM of this world and you CAN’T do anything about it — as a VICTIM. As soon as you buy that, then you are a VICTIM. The problem is, it was all the subconscious programming that led to the life that you had.

Now if you can understand this, and decide to do something about it, then you can start to work on your subconscious programming and reprogram it.

According to Bob Proctor, that’s where affirmations would come in. He suggested that you don’t just read your affirmations daily. Record it and let it play over and over again, on your designated time of each day, until your subconscious mind starts to believe. Kinda like when we were kids and our subconscious just picked up whatever our surroundings, people around us like our parents, are experiencing that time, while we were playing or something.

I’ve recorded mine in my iPhone and I let it play for sometime while I’m working at home or driving alone. I also have another set of affirmations recorded with my Holosync meditation CD.

According to Bruce Lipton, you have to learn how to operate the tape player (our subconscious mind) so you can go and change the recording. Engage the record mode and not just talk to it. He mentioned something about EFT and super learning, which I have yet to learn. I will be attending the 2011 Tapping Summit on February 21st to learn about how to use this technology to reprogram our subconscious and other benefits to it. There will surely be a follow-up post on this.

As always, I welcome all your comments, feedbacks, and anything you can add so we can all learn from each other.

Like most people, I have been focusing on the Law Of Attraction. I’m grateful for learning about it. It’s enlightening to know about how your emotions, thoughts and energy affect your reality. I have changed my whole perception of myself and what’s around me, and because of this shift, life has been “easier” and happier for me.

Just recently, I came across some articles explaining the 7 Essential Universal Laws. According to those articles, learning and implementing the Law Of Attraction is important and a good place to start, but just using one of the Universal Laws is like driving a car with one tire and won’t get you very far. Each of these laws work together to create the shift in
your life that you want. And so it is essential that we learn and implement these laws in our lives.

The Law Of Attraction

This law states that whatever you focus on, you get more. Observe what you think about and talk about all the time. Your current state of mind and emotion sends vibration to the universe, which in turn gives you more of what you keep thinking, feeling and talking about. You attract what you are.

Instead of feeling sorry for yourself for not having what you want – all the time, be grateful and happy for what you have right now, and observe how your reality shifts.

The Law Of Deliberate Creation

The second law states that what you think about, you get. What you give thought to with emotion, you attract more quickly. When you think about something you desire and you believe in it, you are in the place of receiving it.

The difference between this and the Law Of Attraction is that with this law, you intentionally and knowingly create your vibration, so you don’t create by default. With the Law Of Attraction, whatever state your thoughts and emotions are right now, whether you’re aware of it or not, you receive more of it. So, Law Of Deliberate Creation is like a bullseye, while Law Of Attraction is like a boomerang.

The Law Of Allowing

When we desire something to manifest and we have negative emotions, we are blocking that creation from coming into manifestation. Releasing the resistance (negative emotions), gets us back into the state of allowing, enabling abundance and happiness to flow to us freely.

Another form of resistance that is generally overlooked is judgement. No two people are the same, so if you’re judging others because they don’t conform to you, you are not allowing others to be as they are. You are out of alignment with The Law of Allowing if you believe that another person needs to think and act according to how you think they should. If you can accept, and not just tolerate another individual’s differences and similarities, then you understand the Law Of Allowing.

The Law Of Sufficiency And Abundance

We live in a universe of abundance. There is an unlimited supply of everything good — enough for everyone, though we were made to believe that there is not enough. It is time we learn the truth about our beings. We are enough in this moment – perfect, whole and complete, just as we are. Because we are growing and expanding beings, we desire to have more in our lives. If we’re coming from a place of “not enough”, we will never truly feel that whatever we manifest is enough. If you continue to chase things outside of you to feel that you are enough, you will never be satisfied.

On the otherhand, if we’re coming from a place that everything in our life right now is sufficient, then we can be at peace. Manifestation happens if we can be in a place of peace and gratitude for where we are now, and at the same time, excited for the things we desire to manifest.

The Law Of Pure Potentiality

The principle of this law is based on the fact that the true essence of who we are, is pure consciousness. The Source of all creation is pure consciousness, or pure potentiality, seeking to express itself into form. I see this one as developing our relationship and connection with the Source. The Source, as I see it, is the highest form of energy in the universe — which is God. When we realize that our inner being – the spirit that animates our minds and bodies, is one of pure potentiality, we are then in alignment with the power that manifests everything in the universe.

If you are connected to The Source — to God — then you believe that anything is possible and there is unlimited creativity. You know in your heart that because you are connected to The Source, the universe will provide you with everything you need when you require them, you are unlimited in your potential. When you are in alignment with Pure Potentiality, there is no fear, and you are truly free.

Meditation is important in developing our relationship with The Source. When you allow yourself to be silent, to just be, you develop that connection with The Source – with Pure Potentiality, enabling us to feel that we’re part of The Source, and be in touch our pure, unlimited potential.

The Law Of Detachment

This law states that in order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. It’s all about trust. When you know that The Source will give you what you need, then you will learn to do the work that is required to be done, and move on. The results will take care of themselves. If we trust that the universe knows the perfect timing of when to manifest things, it even happens faster — because we get out of the way. If we stand in the way of the energy creating the outcome because of lack of trust or fear, we block the flow of energy (resistance).

By learning to trust, we live in the wisdom of uncertainty where there are unlimited opportunities created in the present moment. Detachment allows you to stay open to allow the universe to bring you something even better you thought possible.

The Law Of Polarity

Polarity represents the two extremes of one thing, which is the same thing. Example: hot and cold, love and hate, good and bad, rich and poor, etc. The ability to understand the power of transformation is important in understanding this law.

By choosing to change your perception and your attitude, you shift your perception of someone or something from “bad” to “good”. By seeking a higher frequency of vibration through your transformation, your previous lower vibration of energy gets replaced. This becomes your new reality. The bad can become the good.

It’s all up to you to make the choice to change your perception and atittude just as it is up to you to create the life you desire.

Whew! There you go. It’s ok if it’s overwhelming and confusing for now. Go back and read it as many times as you need. I tried to explain it as briefly and simple as I could. I will try to devote a whole article on each one of these laws as I learn more about them in the future.

It’s the same way with emotional clutter. Feelings of resentment, anger, guilt drains us of our energy. There’s no way I’m holding on to these feelings. In my mind — there’s no one in this world who is worthy enough for me to waste draining myself of my energy through these negative emotions. Not to say I don’t feel angry at all. I just don’t bother holding on to them. When I’m angry, I really feel it at the moment, then I let it go. Releasing these negative emotions gives me peace — something I’d rather feel all the time.

This is how I get to do things I love doing. This is how I get to have more fun with my family and enjoy life. This is how I get to be “in the moment” coz I don’t waste my time thinking of things I really don’t need. This is how I teach my kids to live…

Your turn. Are you holding onto anger, guilt, or resentment towards another? Think about how much energy you use up in negative emotions and what you could do with that energy if released. Identify something within you that could use healing and let it go. Once you let go, take advantage of your added energy and do something fun!

Moms – You’re Amazing, Just The Way You Are

This is for my hot mom community. I fell in love with this song the first time I heard it. It’s a good and inspiring way to start your day with. Believe. You are amazing — just the way you are.